Sticky Eyes

When you are talking to your quarry, let your eyes stay glued to his or hers a little longer than necessary - even during silences. A gaze that lingers awakens primal, slightly disturbing feelings. It induces the same "fight or flight" chemicals that race through our veins when we feel infatuation. When you must look away, do so reluctantly. Drag your eyes away slowly. This is a particularly good technique for men to use, as women always want to feel that a man is absolutely fascinated by them.

The Visual Voyage

As you and your date are chatting, let your eyes do some traveling - but only on safe ground at first. Take a visual voyage all over his or her face, concentrating on their eyes. If he or she seems to be enjoying your expedition, take small side trips to the neck, shoulders and torso. For girls, take sneak peeks at his body - and when he sees you pretend you are a little embarrassed. This should really get his juices flowing and is a great way to get a friend to think of you sexually. For the man this technique is a little more dangerous, so be wary. If your eyes travel too far south for too long you'll be in trouble.

Expensive Dining

This is good for a gentleman who intends to pick up the bill on the first date. Make sure you take your date to an expensive restaurant with an atmosphere like the one you wish to project - be it elegant, upbeat, cool or arty. Atmosphere is important because she will transfer her feelings about the room to you. It may be superficial, but women tend to judge a man on the first place he takes them.

Dress to Impress

Even when seeking only a casual liaison, do not go out dressed like an unmade bed. Dress as though you were auditioning to be his or her husband or wife. Men must make sure they are coordinated and dress affluently: women love good quality clothes on men. Women need to dress alluringly but not in a cheap way. He is going to mentally undress you anyway, so there is no need for that short skirt. However, you might want to try a slightly more revealing second layer of clothes so that you can, at the right moment, take off that jacket and reveal some wonderful cleavage.

Give First Date Butterflies

When planning your first date, find out what pulls your date's strings, and then plan an arousing, emotional adventure. You don't have to go sky-diving, but a little shared danger is a proven aphrodisiac. A scary movie is an easy way to achieve this - or perhaps ice-skating, where the woman may be nervous and might have to hold on tight. Afterwards, go out for dinner or a drink to discuss your shared experience.

Co-react

To capture your quarry's heart, you need to share his or her convictions and show that you feel them deeply. Watch his or her reactions to outside stimuli, then show the same emotions - shock, disgust, humour, compassion, etc. This is particularly important for men, who are more inclined to misjudge situations. Make sure your reactions suit the mood.

Smile

A simple but crucial technique. A smile is the most effective form of body language and a great way to let somebody know that you are interested in them. As you are looking at or talking to a member of the opposite sex whom you wish to seduce, let a soft smile of acceptance frame your lips. Don't give too quick a smile: just let a slow one float over your face. This will seem much more genuine - while making your romantic intentions obvious.

How do you feel about that?

A good tip for men: pluck up some courage and, whatever your quarry is discussing, simply ask her, "How do you feel about that?" It might seem awkward at first, but woman love to talk about how they feel and will nearly always respond enthusiastically. Women, on the other hand, should wait until a relationship is on stable ground before asking a man much about his feelings - otherwise there is a danger of rocking the boat before it is launched.

Let Your Quarry Pass an 'Audition'

Men should not ask a woman out too soon, lest she think you are interested only in her looks. The ideal time to ask a woman for a date is when she has said something relevant to her personality. For example, if she says something spiritual, say that you'd love to hear more about that, perhaps over dinner. A woman values interest all the more if she feels that you appreciate her inner qualities. Women, meanwhile, can move faster, as men are less afraid of being treated as sex objects.

Have the First Laugh

Another obvious but important technique. Women: make sure you laugh at your quarry's jokes and, when in a group, be the first to laugh. It brings you closer together. Men should try and introduce cute private jokes to create a bond between the two of you. This will help to make you seem like long-time lovers rather than first-date strangers.

眼神交流

当你和他说话时，注视对方的双眸，甚至在不必要时乃至沉默时。注视可以渐渐的唤醒原始的，稍稍令人心动的情感。它可以让犹豫不决的他产生化学反应，通过静脉的流动，对我们产生迷恋。当你必须把目光移开时，记得要表现的很不情愿。把双眸，慢慢的挪开。尤其对于男性来说，这是一个技术活，因为女性总是想要让男人对她们绝对的着迷。

视觉之旅

当你和你的约会对象聊天时，让你的眼睛稍作一些"旅行"--但是首先要在安全地带。在他或她的面部注视，然后专注于她们的双眼。如果他或她似乎很享受你的欣赏，再小幅度的调整你的目光范围至颈部，肩部以及肢体。对于女孩子来说，要小心的偷窥他的身体，而一旦被他发现，要装出一副小尴尬的样子。这样应该可以真的得到他的芳心，而且绝对是让人认为你性感的好办法。对于男性来说这个技巧有一点危险，所以要谨慎。如果你的眼睛"长途跋涉"的太靠下了，你就有麻烦了。

奢华的晚餐

对于绅士来说，这是一个在第一次约会上成功的好方案。一定要带你的女伴去一个与之气质相符高级餐厅--或优雅，或欢快，或冷酷，或附庸风雅。在这里，气氛很重要。因为她对你的感觉会随房屋给她的感觉而变化。这也许肤浅，但是女士们往往通过男士第一次带她去的地方来评判他们。

服饰印象

即便只是寻求一种临时的联系，也不要出门仍旧穿着家居服。穿着打扮时要把自己想象成他的丈夫或妻子。男士必须确保他的衣服和谐且高档：女人喜欢穿着有品质的衣服的男人。女式则需打扮的诱人而不轻浮。他会在大脑里给你宽衣，所以没必要直接穿短裙。然而，你可以在里面穿一件稍微暴露点的衣服，这样在适当的时候，脱下外套，秀出你的精彩

给第一次约会一点刺激

当规划你的第一次约会时，找出并标记你的日期，然后计划一个激发情绪的冒险之旅。不必非要高空跳伞，但稍微分享一些危险是一剂好的催情药。恐怖片，或者溜冰，都是简单的冒险之旅。它会让女生紧张，进而依赖男性。之后，出去吃个饭或者喝点东西，再来分享你们的经历。

联合反应

为了得到他的芳心，你需要分享他或她的信仰并且表态你也深有同感。观察他或她对外界刺激的反应，然后你也需要一同样的情绪作回应--震惊，厌恶，幽默，同情等。这对男人来说尤为重要，因为他们经常错误的判断情况。一定要记住：保证你的反应配合正确的情绪。

微笑

一个简单却关键的技术。微笑是让别人知道你对他感兴趣的最好的方式，也是最有效的身体语言。当你正在和一个你想交往的异性对视或者焦炭的时候，挂一个浅浅的微笑在你的嘴边。不能笑的太夸张，要云淡风轻。这是你显得更真实，同时显得你浪漫。

你怎么看？

对男性的提示：拿出勇气。无论你的女神在谈论什么，简单的问她：你怎么看？也许起初看起来会有些囧，但女人们总是喜欢谈论她们的感觉别且总是积极回应。对于女士们，就要从另一方面说了。你应该等到关系稳定之后再问男人的感觉--否则就有船还没开就触礁的危险了。

提出约会

男士不应该过早的邀请女人出来，以免她认为你只是迷恋她的美貌。理想的提出约会的时间是，当她已经说过一些关于她的个性的事情之后。比方说，她说到她的精神，那你就说希望了解她更多，也许可以共进晚餐。女人觉得一个欣赏自己内在的男人更有价值。而对于女士来说，可以早一点向男人提出约会，因为男人不担心被当做性玩物。

第一个笑

另一个明显但重要的技术。女士们：当你的他讲了笑话，一定要笑，而且如果当时有其他人在场，你一定要第一个笑！这样可以使你们走的更近。男士应该尝试讲一些可爱的私人笑话以建立属于你们的"语言".这将有助于使你看起来是一个相恋已久的恋人，而不是第一次约会的陌生人。