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If you want to get something really worthy but many people are looking for the same thing, if you look like you don’t want it, you’ll be different from others which will make you more worthy, though you’ll get what you want. It looks more complex than it actually is.
如果你想要得到一件非常有价值的东西，然而有许多人和你一样也想拥有它。尽管最终你会得到那样你渴望的东西，假若你表现得并不想得到那样东西，你就会在那群人中显得与众不同，这会让你变得更有价值。实际情况并没有你看上去的那样复杂。
Lately, I’ve been looking to acquire social skills which is something I wasn’t looking for in the past. Since I had no experience in this “expertise”, I didn’t know where to begin. So I started at the bottom, trying the best I could to gain experience but it simply didn’t work. I was even getting in the other direction which wasn’t great at all.
最近我一直渴望能掌握一些社交技能，这是以前被我忽略的东西。由于这不是我的“专长”，我不知道该从何做起。所以我从最基本的做起，尽我全力去获取经验，但是那样做没有起到一点作用。反而让我往不好的方向发展。
I follow the saying :"If something doesn’t work, do the opposite", so I went ahead and stopped going on too strong, and it progressively came to me. It was weird at first because giving less interest in others was actually getting them more interested. I have felt and understood why certain person get rejected fast, and I mean REALLY FAST. It’s unbelievable. People are so much based on first impression that it’s understandable that we often avoid getting to know new people which is quite sad to me. Social surrounding is, in my opinion, the best way to enjoy your life fully. A self-centered person can only lose from being that way because he/she loses much experience from others. Think about it, if you want to have a lot of experience in different situations, how do you do it? Watch movies? Hell no. You experiment with tons of people.
我遵从一条谚语“如果这个方法行不通，就反其道而行之。”，于是我学聪明了点，不再像以前那样过分勉强自己，而且情况真的有所好转。不过起初的时候我会有怪怪的感觉，因为对别人显得冷淡点反而会让他们对你更感兴趣。我体验过也能够明白为什么某些人会很快地遭到拒绝，我说的快是指非常的快。真是太难以置信了。人们仅凭第一印象就决定避免和新认识的人交往，这是可以理解的，但对我来说却是件痛苦的事。（译者按：意指“我”天生不受人欢迎）我认为，充分地享受人生的最好方式就是融入社会。一个以自我为中心的人只会为他自以为是的行为付出代价，因为他/她将无法从他人身上获得丰富的经验。好好想想看，如果你想获得丰富的人生阅历，你会怎么做？看电影？绝不是这样的。而是和成千上万的人打交道。
As a matter of fact, people are in a scarcity mentality. Everyone is afraid of everyone. At least, for a big part of the population. Those who become rich and become successful in life are often those unique person who develop leaders traits. And what is great about this is that it’s not hard to shift of mentality. It just need a bit of work of your part and massive action. Push your limits, destroy them, show yourself you can be better than you already are. It’s all about that.
事实上，人与人之间的心灵交流比较少。 每个人都害怕其他的人。至少大部分人是这样的。那些变得富有和实现人生理想的人经常是那些去提升自己的领袖气质的独特的人。好消息是转变心态并不是一件很难的事。只需要你一点点的努力和大量的行动。不断突破自己的极限，证明你可以比昨天自己更优秀。这是关键。
If you want to get what you want, you must do what is required first. Then you’ll get what you want, WITHOUT ANY PROBLEM. If you want a new car, make money. If you want to make money, get a job. If you already have a job, find a way to increase your revenue. If you want to increase your revenue, find new opportunities, new ideas, etc. You see, this is almost a perpetual circle of improvement. Each time you improve something on that ladder, you improve your “chances” of getting what you want, because you know, everything in life is about chance. Let just say that by following those steps (pushing your limits, improving everything that relates to what you want), probabilities will most likely play in your favor.
如果你想要得到你渴望的东西，你必须要去做你必须去做的事。然后你会毫无疑问地得到你想要的。如果你想要辆新车，就去挣钱。如果你想要挣钱，就要找份工作。如果你已经有了一份工作，找个办法提高收入。如果你想提高你的收入，就去寻找新机遇、新想法等等。你也看到了，这是一个循序渐进的提高。每次你在那个层次提高一点点，你就增加了得到你渴望的东西的几率，因为你知道，生活中的每一件事都和机会有关。这样说吧，遵从这些步骤（不断突破自己的极限，提升与你渴望得到的那样东西相关的一切），你就会最大可能地顺风顺水地得到你渴望的东西。
