Often Men are nervous or shy on their first dates. They like the girl and try a lot to make an impression. But while doing this they forget who they really are. So the first thing to do is "Be Yourself". If you are deciding the place then take her to your favorite place. That way you would know everything that's good about it. If you to a new place, when she asks you "what is good in here?" You wouldn't be having a answer. That is the first minus point. And after that you might not enjoy the whole night. Instead, when you take her to a familiar place the answer can be easily given. You would be confident about the answer. That will boost you up and the conversation.

You can talk about everything and everything with her, unless it's not offensive and sexist jokes. Remember that it's not what you talk about, it how you talk about it. Believe me; you can have talk to her even about gadgets and global warming. Only if you do it right.

And the key is to keep it as simple as you can. Your hair tells a lot about you. Keep it as simple and well set as you can. Visit your barber once a month. Don't over dress. That doesn't mean that you should just wear anything from your wardrobe. Pick something that suits you and comforts you too. Put on a deodorant with light smell. So even if you are nervous and sweaty she wouldn't know that. Even if you are uncomfortable, pretend you aren't and then you will start enjoying her company.

Listening is the key to a great conversation. Show interest in everything she says. And built up another conversation on what she says. Add you personal thought, give your opinions. Respond in every possible way you can. But this isn't an interview, so relax and think what you are going to say before you actually say it. Don't brag about all the stuff you have or will have in future. Well, that depends on the girl you are going out with. Hey, you are a guy, you can at least figure that out. If everything goes well, you be a sweet heart and gentle all the time. Then you might get to hear 6 magical words in dating language "we should do this again sometime" All I've got to say is you've earned it!

通常男人在第一次约会时即紧张又羞涩，他们喜欢那个姑娘，竭力要给她留下好印象，可是却忘记了以自己的本来面目示人。因此约会宝典一就是"还自己以本来面目".假如由你来决定约会地点，则选择自己最喜欢去的地方，这样你就会对它的优点了如指掌。如果去一个新地方，要是她问起"这里都有什么好玩的？",你就不可能对答如流了。这是出现的第一个小问题，接着你可能不会整晚都尽兴了。相反，要是带她去你熟悉的地点，则这个问题就是小菜一碟，答案了然于心，这样你就会信心大增，你们的谈话也会兴致勃勃。

你可以与她谈论任何事，或对任何事发表自己的见解，唯独不要涉及具有侮辱性的话题或是开与性有关的玩笑。谨记，重要的不是你的谈话内容，而是你的谈话方式。相信我，你甚至可以与她谈论那些小产品及全球变暖。只要你表达得当就可。

再者，要保持简洁。你的头发会传达许多有关你的信息。尽量保持简单而有型。每月理发。不要打扮过头。我不是指你从衣柜里随便拿件衣服就万事大吉了，而是要穿得即合体又舒服。洒点淡淡的香体露，这样即使你因紧张而出汗，她也不会有所察觉。即使感觉不自在，也要假装泰然自若，接着你就会开始喜欢有她的陪伴了。

倾听对于一次愉快交谈至关重要。对她所说的一切表示出兴趣，根据她的话题进行引伸，谈谈你的个人想法，发表自己的见解。但是这可不是一次面试，所以放轻松，在开口之前先想好要说些什么。不要吹嘘你现在或将来拥有的任何东西。嗯，不过这取决于与你交往的姑娘呢。咳，做为男人，你自己可以做出判断。如果一切顺利，你就会自始至终表现得即温柔又绅士了。那么，你就会听到约会中经常说到的那几个字了"何时再见面呢？"

我所要说的就是，你已经大获成功了！