OK. Here are a few quick 'n dirty questions. Where exactly does your relationship stand? If you are ready to be brutally honest, ask yourself these five tough questions.

1. Do you look at other relationships and feel you have settled?

* This is the first big question you need to answer. Looking at other relationships and "wondering" or "longing" is not a good sign.

Why are you looking at other relationships?
Are you missing something is your relationship that you see in another one?

2. Do you really like and respect your partner?

* This is crucial; without respect there is no substance.

And what about "liking" your partner? Do you find him interesting, and when she talks, do you want to listen to her?
In order to like and respect anyone, you have to ask yourself. "If I was not involved with this person, and met him on the street, would I like him?"

3. Do you want the same good things for your partner that you want for yourself?

* This is real generosity of spirit.

Do you care as much for your partner's feelings as you do for you own?

4. Do you feel this is where you "belong"?

* "Belonging" is the same as being "home".
* It is being perfectly content where you are.

5. Ask yourself, if you could terminate the relationship without any inconvenience - financial or otherwise - would you?

* We instinctively know that we will never again have the status quo once we terminate this relationship.

Are you brave enough to leave?

嗯。这里有一些快速的且不太道德的问题。你们之间的关系处于何种地步呢？如果你做好准备，就诚实而无情地问自己这五个难办的问题吧。

1. 看看其他情侣之间的关系，你觉得你们之间已经稳定下来了吗？

* 这是你需要回答的首要问题。看看其他情侣之间的关系，如果你感到“彷徨”或“羡慕”，这都不是好的征兆。
* 你为什么会在看别人的关系呢？
* 你在别人的关系中看到了你们所缺少的东西了吗？

2. 你真的喜欢并尊重你的伴侣吗？

* 这一点至关重要。没有尊重，一切就都是虚的。
* 再想想你“喜欢”你的伴侣吗？你发现他有趣吗？当她说话时，你喜欢倾听吗？
* 为了喜欢和尊重某人，你必须问你自己：“要是我跟这个人没一点瓜葛，那么要是在街上遇见他，我会喜欢他吗？”

3. 自己想要的东西，同样也想让你的伴侣得到吗？

* 这是真正高尚之精神。
* 你在乎着你伴侣的感受，就如同在乎着你自己的感受一样吗？

4. 你觉得这就是你的“归宿”吗？

* “归宿”就是“回家”。
* 你对你所处的地方完全满意。

5. 扪心自问，如果你可以没有一点困难（经济上的或其他方面的）地结束这段关系，你会去结束它吗？

* 我们本能地知道，一旦结束这段关系，就将永远无法恢复了。
* 你有足够的勇气离开吗？