If i were to ask Forrest Gump what is Sexy? He would probably say "sexy is as sexy does". What does someone who is sexy do? Are they always aware that they are doing it and is there a measure of sexiness?

When you google who are the worlds sexiest men and women you almost know who are going to pop up. Clooney, Beyonce, Brad Pitt, Angelina, Colin Farrell, Orlando Bloom, Josh Holloway and so the list goes on. Yes they truly are The Beautiful People but their sexiness as portrayed to the world is manufactured and presumptive. I would argue that perfect looks don't automatically equal sexiness. Often sexiness is worn unknowingly by the truly sexy. It might be a look they give you. It might be a confident walk. It might be the way they smile. It might be a sexy mind. In my life i have often found the unassuming prove to be truly sexy.

We have all walked rooms with our eyes and during an evening had interactions either face to face or just a look. You know the scenario. If someone is attracted to you they will supposedly hold your gaze just a few seconds longer than is socially the norm. You will watch and observe not because you are necessarily looking to hook up but because its fun to watch the dance even if you don't want to take a twirl. You will see the players who moves are practiced and almost jaded in their application. You will see the lacking in confidence, eyes darting, leg tapping pent up with should i shouldn't i indecision. Then you will see the comfortable in their own skin men and women. Yes they are looking for a connection if single but hell if they don't get a fix, what will be will be. They are not out to score points with their com padres but if they happen to engage in good conversation and fun they have had a good evening.

So what is sexy? I believe that those who think they are sexy are way beyond the mark trading only in good looks and not a lot else. It is the comfortable in their own skin brigade who truly exude an understated sexiness which catches you unawares and goes beyond the superficial.

如果你去问Forrest Gump什么是性感？他也许会说：“性感本身就是性感”。性感的人们是怎么做的？他们总是带者这种意识去做事吗？还有，存在衡量性感的标准吗？

当你搜索一下谁是世界上性感的男男女女们，你几乎知道那些的名字会出现，Clooney、 Beyonce、 Brad Pitt、 Angelina、Colin Farrell、Orlando Bloom和 Josh Holloway ，名单还可以继续列下去。不错，他们当然是潇洒漂亮，可他们所展现世人面前的性感，那是按照既定的标准，经过包装制作的。我个人认为完美的五官并不是自动和性感划上等号。那些所谓的性感相较于真实的性感黯然失色，也许是他们给你的一个眼神，也许是他们自信的步伐，也许是他们身上洋溢着那种性感的精神。在我的生活里，经常发现那种真实、不矫柔做作那才是真正的性感。

（我们满屋子东转转西瞧瞧，然后整下午，面对面或者相互瞅上两眼，一句话，无事可干。看电视剧，如果哪个人吸引你的目光，假定时间超过正常社交几秒，那不是因为你必须得看看他或她怎样上钩的，而是看他们的表演非常有趣，即使你不想涉及其中。你会看到演员随着剧情精彩的表演：疲惫的找工作，缺乏信心，眼睛乱瞟，腿微颤，念叨我不会优柔寡断。接下来你会看到他们和颜悦色，是的，他们在寻找对象，如果是只有一个人，没有找到别人，那就是地狱。他们就会展现他们本来的面目。他们不会赢得好感如果带着牧师，如果碰巧他们谈话兴致很好，他们会过一个愉快的夜晚。这一段我拿不准，请高手指教！）

那么什么是性感？我认为那些真正性感的人们是那些远离市场化炒作而不是仅仅脸蛋漂亮而一无是处的家伙，他们心平气和，真正理解了性感的内涵，真正的性感是无意中吸引你，而又超越了表面的皮囊。