We’ve talked about human attraction between men and women in the past here and here. Previous researchers argued that what women value depended on the type of relationship they were looking for. Women looking for long-term partners want someone who will be a good provider for them and their children, but women seeking short-term flings care more about masculinity and physical attractiveness, features that may be passed down to children.
New research, however, has identified four categories of characteristics women seek in a partner:
* Good genes, reflected in desirable physical traits
Women look for attractiveness because it means the person has “good genes” (whether or not they actually do).
* Resources
Who doesn’t like a person with good resources — a home, money, a stable good-paying job — that can help provide for them and future children?
* The desire to have children and good parenting skills
This, of course, only applies to women who are actually looking to have children (or more children).
* Loyalty and devotion
Not much point in getting involved in a relationship if the person you’re interested in being involved with isn’t able to be loyal and committed to you.
Most women attempt to secure the best combination of the qualities they desire from the same man. A small portion of women who do not find a partner with all the qualities may trade some characteristics for others.
We don’t think any of this is rocket science or particularly new. Although women’s selectivity across categories reflected how attractive they appeared to other people, the researchers found the characteristics men desired in a partner did not vary based on their own physical attractiveness.
不管是过去还是现在,我们都谈论着关于男人和女人相互之间吸引的事。早先的研究者认为女性的价值观和她们所要寻找类型的关系有关。如果女性寻找的是长期的另一半,就会要求对方对她们和她们的孩子是一个很好的供给者;但假使女性寻求的只是短期的另一半,可能更关心男性的阳刚之气和外貌以及能够传递给下一代的特征。
然而新研究已经确定了女性寻找另一半的四个特征分类:
1.良好的基因,这反映在理想的身体特征
因为这意味着该人已具备“良好的基因”,从而吸引着女性(不管他们是否真的具有)。
2.资源
谁会不喜欢和一个有丰富资源(良好的家庭,有钱,一个稳定高薪的工作),能够供给她们和未来的孩子所需的人呢?
3.希望有子女和良好的为人父母的技巧
当然,这仅适用于想要孩子的女性(或要更多的孩子)。
4. 忠诚和奉献精神
如果一个人不能够忠诚和承诺与你,很少会有人和他在一起。
多数女性企图从同一个人身上获得最好的素质整合。有一小部分女性找不到另一半的上述特质,就会转而去寻求其他的特质。
我们不认为这是一个突破性的特别新研究。尽管女性的选择是依据这四个分类来希望其他人来吸引她,但是研究者发现具有这些理想特征的男性并不十分在意他们自己身体的吸引力。