Every marriage will go through times of crisis. Some marriages will be strengthened by a crisis, others will be destroyed.

Here's help in avoiding having your marriage relationship hurt by loss and devastation.

Difficulty: Hard

Time Required: Varies

Here's How:

Have a plan for such times... eat what ever is left in the freezer instead of planning a meal, let voice mail take your calls, ask for help from family and friends.

Don't blame one another for the situation.

When possible watch a funny movie together. Laugh a little.

Hug one another, hold one another, snuggle or have sex.

Don't worry about keeping the house or current residence super clean. Lower your expectations of one another a bit.

Remember your commitment to one another.

Compliment one another.

Find something positive in each day.

Remind yourselves that this crisis isn't going to last forever.

Ask for help from family and friends. Or find a support group.

If you are dealing with grief, accept that you must each grieve on your own schedule.

Don't keep your feelings bottled in. Share what is going on with your spouse.

Take it one day at a time.

Lower your stress level by exercising, eating healthy foods, drinking water, having some fun, and getting enough sleep.

Be patient. It takes time to overcome the trauma of a crisis.

Tips:

Although they can take a toll, traumatic events do NOT have to mean the end of your marriage.

Be realistic about what you can do and can't do in the midst of your crisis situation.

What You Need:

Commitment

Understanding

Sense of Humor

Communication Skills

Honesty

Patience

Being Realistic

每段姻将都会经历危机时期。有些婚姻会因为危机而更加巩固，而有些则会破裂。

这里可以帮助你避免婚姻关系受到损害和破坏。

难度：棘手

需要的时间：多变

这里告诉你怎么做：

1. 遇到这样的情况就制定一个计划：吃冰箱里剩下的东西而不是安排饭局，电话里留言，向家人和朋友寻求帮助。

2. 不要因为这样的情况就相互指责。

3. 条件允许时一起看部有趣的电影，笑一笑。

4. 互相拥抱 ，互相依靠，偎依或者做爱。

5. 不要为保持房子或目前住处的过分清洁而操心。互相降低一点期望值。

6. 记得你们互相承诺的。

7. 互相赞美。

8. 每天都找一些乐观的东西

9. 提醒自己这次危机不会永远存在。

10. 请求家人和朋友帮忙，或者寻找一些支持你的人。

11. 如果正在排解你的忧伤，接受它，你们得各自为自己的行为感到悲哀。

12. 不要把你的感受兜在心里。把发生的事情说出来与和另一半共同分担。

13. 每天都做一次。

14. 用这些方式减少压力：锻炼，吃健康的食物，喝水，找乐趣，保持充足的睡眠。

15. 做到耐心。克服危机的心理创伤是需要时间的。

技巧：

1. 尽管要付出代价，但是危机事件并不意味着它就是你婚姻的结局。

2. 在危机过程中，对你能做和不能做的事情都要理性面对。

你需要做到：

信任

理解

幽默感

沟通技巧

坦诚

耐心

理性