1. If you really didn't have a great time, you can always end the date early by being truthful and call an end to proceedings by saying you have an urgent meeting, phone call, appointment etc. Whilst your date will not be a fool, they will understand what you are trying to say. Better still, simply be kind but truthful and point out that you don't think you will be an ideal match and that you have had a lovely evening but that is all there is to it.

2. Never allow someone to believe there is more on offer than there really is. Do not keep your options open with someone if you don't intend to call them. It is always better to end the date as a full-stop than to keep someone hanging on for weeks afterwards. So don't falsely keep someone's hopes up, ever.

3. If you are a guy you are paying the bill or getting the check, whatever you believe. This is not the moment to start quibbling over who had what from the menu and splitting things. The age of chivalry is not dead and you had the company of the lady this evening, therefore it is your task to leave an excellent and chivalrous image by getting out your credit card.

4. If the lady insists on paying half, this is often the sign of a no-strings-attached evening out and that she prefers to leave things in a very even way. If she wants to do this, it is up to you whether you wish to accept.

5. Do not be planning deep throat kissing and sex immediately after unless it really is on the cards for both of you. And even then, remember that you should be planning to retain your enigma at least for a few dates yet so resolve not to get into bed just yet. As a guy you should be planning to see her to her cab and then give her a small kiss on the cheek.

6. If you like your date, tell them. You don't need to be explicit but you don't need to be coy either. If you enjoyed their company be forthright and confident and tell them that you would look forward to spending more time in their company very soon. If you can arrange a second date at this stage, then do so but only if you are serious. People do not like being made a fool of or being let down.

7. Do not try to avoid hurting someone's feelings by pretending you like them more than you really do. If you had a good time but won't be seeing them again then better to leave things like that.

8. Keep things relaxed, fun and casual and if you feel they are less interested than you, then keep things open-ended and optional. That way your date will have time to reconsider.

9. If you are a guy see your date safely to a cab or her car and do not make her feel any pressure whatsoever. If you are a girl then ensure you feel comfortable with this happening. If you prefer to see yourself to a cab then do so.

10. Always remember that dating is a stage by stage process and nothing rarely happens instantly. Therefore the first date was exactly that with hopefully many more to follow.

11. And finally but perhaps controversially, don't offer friendship as substitute. This is a date and has it's basis in romance. Ultimately you will find friends in many different places, but you should view dating as the possibility of establishing romance as your foremost priority.

1. 如果你确实玩得不开心，可以通过真诚地表明你有紧急会议、电话、约定等理由来结束约会的进程。在此同时你的约会并不会变得糟糕，他们会理解你所要试图表达的理由。你只需善意而真诚地指出自己并不是对方理想的对象，然后表明自己度过了一个美好的夜晚，但这就足够了，这样做会更好。

2. 绝不要让某人认为她还有更多的机会。如果你不想给某人打电话，那就不要给他们机会。完全结束约会总比让某个人无结果地等待几周时间要好得多。所以永远不要错误地给某人希望。

3. 无论你相信与否，如果你是那个家伙的话，你总是会付款或结账。这不是争论谁该付账的时候。骑士时代并未消失，而且今晚有女士陪伴，所以掏出你的信用卡，给女士留下美好的绅士映像是你的主要任务。

4. 如果女士坚持AA制，那么这通常是晚餐过后再无瓜葛的信号，也可能是她乐于均分的表现。如果她执意要AA制，那么是否接受就看你的决定了。

5. 晚餐过后不要盘算着与她舌吻并立即发生关系，除非你们两人都有此意愿。即使在那时，也要记住你应该至少在几天内故意保持矜持并表示出不想上床的决心。作为一个绅士，你应该计划将她护送到出租车，然后在她脸颊上轻吻一下。

6. 如果你喜欢这次约会，那么就告诉她们。你不能过于直率，但也不能太腼腆。如果你喜欢她们的陪伴，那么就立即自信地告诉她们你期望不久后能与她们有更多的时间在一起共度。如果你能在这一阶段安排第二次约会，只要你是认真的，那就照常进行吧。没有人会愿意被愚弄或是失望。

7.不要通过假装自己非常喜欢她们来试图避免伤害某人的感情。如果你玩得很开心，但从此不想再见到她们的话，最好还是彻底的离开。

8.让约会保持放松、愉悦和轻松的状态，如果你觉得那没有意思的话，那就保持开放自由的状态。这中约会的方式会有更多的时间来重新考虑。

9. 如果你是个绅士的话，就一定要把你的约会对象安全送到出租车或是她的车中，无论如何都不要让她感觉到任何压力。如果你是女士，那么请你一定要确信是否对此举感到满意。如果你更愿意独自一人去搭出租，那就照自己想的做吧。

10. 始终记住约会是一个逐步渐进的过程，没有任何事情会瞬即发生。所以第一次约会其实是期待以后更多此约会发展的前提。

11. 最后一点，也可能是颇受争议的一点，就是不要用友情替代爱情。因为这是一次约会，并且是以浪漫为基调的。你最终一定会在许多不同地方结识很多朋友。但你应该将约会看作是营造自己优先考虑的浪漫氛围的可能性。