Change your thinking and ultimately change your life by implementing these 10 steps.

1. Examine the programming. We all grow up with messages from our pasts that shape our beliefs about ourselves. Have you examined those messages recently? What are they telling you about yourself?

2. Keep a notebook handy and write down any thoughts (self-talk) that evoke negative emotions. These include thoughts that make you feel defeated, sad, angry, afraid, unsure, or self-doubting. Once you have identified thinking patterns, it becomes easier to change them.

3. Now take action to change your self-talk. If your self-talk reflects any negativity, get rid of it. How do you do this? Replace self-defeating statements with positive, empowering ones. For example, replace “I can't do anything right” with “ I may not be able to do all things but I can certainly do some things and do them well.” Replace “I always forget” to “everyone forgets and it's not a big deal-just what it is to be human.” Changing your thoughts actually alters brain chemistry.

4. You cannot have an emotion without a thought preceding it. When you change your thoughts, you change the way you feel, and this radiates out into your life and affects its outcome. It's a domino effect: thought, emotion, action, outcome. Your thoughts can be a recipe for disaster or a recipe for happiness and personal fulfillment.

5. Self-sooth. Treat yourself as you would your best friend. We'll often comfort a friend while being unnecessarily hard on ourselves. Learn to comfort yourself when needed. Whenever you are stressed or need comfort, think or speak out loud using comforting words: “It's okay. It's all right.”.

6. Eliminate other people's “shoulds” from your life. Life is too short to put your dreams on the backburner while attempting to live up to another's expectations. When you become your own best friend, it becomes easier to stand up for what's important to you.

7. Give yourself permission to be the person you were born to be-without making apologies. When you truly value yourself, other people's opinions become less important.

8. Do not allow people to minimize your concerns or belittle you. Scrutinize your relationships and identify those that are emotionally unhealthy.

Choose friends who support you; limit association with those who drag you down.

9. Look to yourself as the best source of validation. You do not need others' praise to know you are worthwhile and a talented human being.

10. Create a life plan that embraces serenity, beauty, spontaneity, and time for fun.

When you change your thinking, you change your outlook and ultimately your circumstances. It's that simple. This is a sure-fire formula that will set you on the path to happiness and personal fulfillment.

通过以下10步，改变你的思维方式，最终改变你的生活。

1.检查进程。我们都是从过去过来的。过去的信息形成了我们的信念。你最近有没有检查过这些信息呢？它们告诉了你什么？

2.随身带一本笔记本，记下任何引起负面情绪的想法，包括让你受挫、伤心、生气、害怕、不确定、缺少自信的想法。一旦你识别了自己的思维模式，就很容易改变它们。

3.现在采取行动改变你的思维。如果你的思维折射出任何负面影响，立即处理掉。怎么做呢？以积极肯定的心态取代自我受挫感。比如说，将“我干不成一件正确的事”替换成“也许我不能做所有的事情，但是我肯定能做一些事情，并把它们做好。”将“我老是健忘”替换成“每个人都会健忘，没什么大不了的，这是人类的通病。”改变想法，事实上就是改变大脑的化学过程。

4.没有思维，就不会有情绪。一旦你改变了思维，你也改变了你的感受，而这些将折射到你的生活并影响结果。这是个连锁反应：思维，情绪，行动，结果。你的思维可以是灾难的配方也可以是幸福和成功的配方。

5.自慰。对待自己就像对待自己最好的朋友一样。我们经常安慰朋友，却很难安慰自己。需要时，学着安慰自己。当你感到紧张或需要安慰时，用安慰的词语想或大声说：“没事。不要紧。”

6. 将别人“应该做的事”从你的生活中剔除。如果你总是为别人而活，却将自己的梦想摆在第二位，那么你的生命实在是太短暂了。一旦你成为自己最好的朋友，你将更清楚什么才是重要的。

7.允许你自己成为一个生来就不用道歉的人。一旦你真的珍惜自己，其他人的想法就会变得不那么重要。

8.不许别人忽视或小看你。仔细查看你的关系，并找出那些不健康的关系。选择那些支持你的朋友，少联系那些拖你后腿的朋友。

9.将自己看成最佳评判者。你不需要从别人的赞美中得知自己是个天才。

10. 制作一个拥有宁静，美丽，自然，有趣的生活计划。

一旦你改变了思维，你也改变外表，最终也改变了你的环境。这非常简单并且一定会成功地让你踏上幸福成功之路。